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How to Get a Guy to Notice You

Fri, 18 Dec 2009 14:44:24 +0100

If you want to know how to make a guy fall in love with you, then this is not the article for you. This is for those who have noticed a guy and want him to notice her back (getting him to like you is a whole other story). Luckily, getting a guy to notice you is easier because it involves the use of basic social skills. You should be honest, direct, pleasant, and reasonable.

Steps

1. Be sure that his attention is what you want. Don't just try to get a guy to look your way, you want attention and you want to feel good about yourself. You don't want to lead someone on like a puppy taken out for a walk. You could end up in a very awkward or uncomfortable situation--see the Warnings below.

2. Be yourself. Everyone probably says this, but it's true! No guy wants a girl to pretend she is something she's not. As a general rule, guys don't expect girls to change. Resist the temptation to put on a show or to do anything that just isn't you just to get his attention.

3. Try to become his friend. Get to know him better. Yes, you might like him, but first, become his friend. Start liking things that he likes, but don't get too much involved. He might become too crowded. First, try by asking him questions. Don't take it wrong if he says something bad about what you like. That's just his opinion, so don't worry about it.

4. Get a new look. Don't change who you are (you don't want to do that because he will like you better) just try something different; if he doesn't like you for who you are, then let him be. Try a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. It's a good idea to change things up once in a while. Because variety might be the spice of life, and it might help you catch his eye. Try being that girl who is different from all the other okay looking girls. Give him the eyes, because "beauty is common, but a good outlook and great energy are very rare."

5. Smile and make eye contact. Whether closed-mouth or open-mouth, do it. Unless it really makes you feel artificial, learn how to shoot people a reassuring smile, letting them know that you're a happy and confident person who wants to enjoy life. The idea is to communicate that you're inviting their company.

6. Be cute! Don't make the first move, if he really likes you, he will come over and talk to you. Don't be a total wallflower, but if you're just reading a magazine, try and look cute and wait until he can't resist and he might ask what book you're reading... and take the conversation on from there.

7. Flirt. Do it as little or as much as you want, but remember that too much flirting (especially with other guys) will likely get him to take notice, but perhaps not in a good way. Don't do too much, but not too little either. Sometimes you might look too... too girlie, popular, wanna-be etc. If he reacts and you don't think its real (he's just doing it because you're there and you're a girl and he thinks he can do better, but let him know he can't). If he is faking it, call his bluff and say something that makes him know you don't think he is 'all that'. For example, if he comes close, pull a face and offer him gum. This will unbalance his ego.

8. Start up conversations that have to do with if it's where you are or if he's talking to you. Make sure you don't go on about nothing. Definitely make sense when you talk to him. Don't twirl your hair, flick your eyelashes or GIGGLE nonstop. He can get kind of scared and make fun of you, no matter how old you are, guys will always be the same. Be yourself! Just be who you are, that's the #1 quality guys look for in a girl.

9. Hang out with him often but not too often ; you don't always want to be hanging around because you might look like an annoying bug that's always around and never goes away. Try to start a conversation about an interesting topic, for example, if you're at a football game, ask confidently but cutely, "Did I miss any action?". This will tell him that you want to know about the game, but also you want to get his opinion, so he will automatically talk to you about the game (or other topics) the whole game. Start slowly like a movie or party try not to make it so noticeable cause he might not be interested.

10. 10Be assertive. You are the girl. You have the power. A lot of guys are shy and awkward around girls they like, so don't hold back. Do what you want to do. Boys like a powerful girl. Be decisive. Tell him what you want him to do, etc.--just don't get too bossy!

11. Make him feel special. There's got to be a reason that you want him to notice you, and that's because you noticed him first. Let him know--subtly--that you're interested in who he is, and that you sincerely want to get to know him better.

12. Don't be a slob! It's a real turn-off for a guy when he notices a girl hasn't brushed her hair or wears the same outfit every other day. Even if you don't fall within the typical expectations, just looking presentable is always desirable--irrespective of who is the guy or girl.

13. Just Talk To Him. When it comes down to it, talking to a guy, and flirting with him will get his attention, and if it doesn't then nothing will.

14. Walk in front of him. It may be very simple, but it works. When coming out of the class, or playing in gym class, just walk in front of him, and he should be able to notice you. If he walks in front of you a lot, he probably likes you.

15. If he's looking your way, give him something to look at! If he's looking at you you can:

o Look away shyly, making you seem mysterious because he can't figure out why you did that!

o Look into his eyes, smile, then wave!

o Ignore him. Let him watch you be himself!

o If he is looking only at you, try to share your thoughts. eg. You are in a boring class, using your facial expression and pulled a face at the teacher then looking back at him and smile. Sharing these intimate moments makes you closer to him.

But most importantly, do not be indecent. Be yourself, not a plastic barbie doll! You can be beautiful without wearing skimpy tiny shorts at gym or tanks with cleavage. Guys don't think it's attractive; they think your just desperate for attention. And if they do like it, they are just filled with lust and you should not like them anyway!

Tips

• Speak your mind. You're not a drone, and any guy worth having will love it. Just don't scare them by going into a spiel. It's a turn-on to see a girl who loves her mind, not one who's bent on world domination. Likewise, don't get caught up in complaining (about yourself, others, your circumstances). Negativity pushes others away, and it lowers your self-esteem. [but sometimes you have to have a reason to complain, otherwise don't complain!]

• Being too straightforward might mean leaving him bored. One way to get someone's attention is to make him curious, and that means leaving him guessing to some degree.

• React to his jokes. If they aren't funny, say so OR just smile as if you're slightly amused and roll your eyes look at him add a short laugh type burst of air from your nose and say idiot but in a nice way trust me - they love this.. Then tell a couple to make him laugh.

• Be mysterious; keep him guessing. Don't overdo this; it will make him frustrated (not to mention confused) if you do it too much.

• You have to be able to know how to not be so serious! Be laid back, be fun!

• Never ask him out through a friend! He'll be creeped out and he might just say no.

• Remember that the boys rarely get asked out because they're the ones who usually do the asking. Take a risk and ask him out! On the negative, he might feel flattered and politely decline. But the positive WAY outweighs the negative. He probably has NEVER gotten asked out by a girl. When you ask him out, you're differentiating yourself. He'll notice and feel complimented, you'll make him feel great about himself AND about you, and you'll stand out in his mind. Also, if you've read the signs already and have a feeling that he might already like you (but maybe he's shy) the odds are very high that he'll agree to go out with you!

• Be outgoing and make small talk every once in awhile. Just remember not to be nosy, though.

• Chocolate releases another chemical that makes you feel very happy. Try it. But,not in excess.

• If you want a guy to notice you, you have to do something really unexpected. Something you can do is when you are talking to him kiss him out of nowhere. If he doesn't back off, you have been noticed.Use this tip very sparingly, however.

• Sometimes when a guy knows you like him, they start to feel the same way. It may sound desperate but telling one of his friends you like him means that he will soon find out. This will make the guy you like look at you differently and possibly start liking you back...it happens! ;)

• Laugh. Learn to joke about things. Don't be an obnoxious freak, but learn to be a little bit humorous; guys find that SUPER attractive! Whether your humor is sarcasm, clever/wittiness, just being quirky and weird, or telling hilarious stories, just be your self and learn to laugh. Don't take life so seriously!

• Talk about stuff he likes like skateboarding, football, etc. Don't go on and on about your favorite show or your hair, or your make-up also don't complain about how bad you look guys want a girl that's okay with herself. Also don't complain about it because you want the guy to say your beautiful it sends the wrong message!!!

Warnings

• If a guy you like has a girlfriend or someone he likes more than you, don't talk about how much you dislike her, or how she's your best friend. It will make him angry, and he could also leave you alone or make him more attracted to her and not you. So just respect the fact he has a girlfriend or likes someone, because he will appreciate it.

• Be careful whose attention you're getting, and what kind of attention you're earning. Being noticed by a sleazy guy who'll pressure you to do things you don't want to do or a needy guy who'll cling to you and make you feel limited is something you can avoid by being wary. Be sure you know from who you're wanting a positive reaction.

• You can't get everyone to notice you. Remember that guys come and go, so do not stress yourself if things do not work out in your favor. The world is a really big place, and you'd do well to remember it.

• Being too obsessive can do the opposite of what you want to achieve, pushing him farther away. Under the category "Love", obsession or suspicion doesn't fall in. That is "Infatuation".

• If he just won't become attracted to you, leave it alone. Do not push it, or things might get ugly, and you'll earn a bad reputation.

• Don't show off too much flesh, especially if he would always look! Always keep him under suspense. Also modesty shows that you are a lady. He will see that you don't need to show off, and in return the right kind of guy will give you his respect.

• Do you like cocky people? Self-centered people? Bossy people? In-your-face people? If not, then avoid being any of those, because he probably feels the same way. Don't boast about yourself constantly [he'll think you're nuts], don't think only for your benefit, don't push him around too often [especially when you're doing something in a team], and don't always ask questions about him or you.

• If he doesn't seem to be getting all the hints after a week or two that's okay. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you; it just means he may not be ready for a girlfriend right now or that he is too shy to show emotion back. If after maybe 3 months of being flirty then he probably isn't into you as much, it could still change. It's completely up to you how far you'll go, how hard you'll try, how long you want to keep it up, etc.

• DON'T act like a snob to impress him. He will think you are obnoxious. Also, don't be clingy or bother him. He will try to avoid you or think you are annoying, and you don't want that!

• You always have to be yourself no matter what. If you act like someone else you could end up with a guy you don't like.

• Don't force him to like you. If he doesn't, don't feel too bad, he's the one who's missing out. Let him meet you halfway at least. Like everything else, things can change over night. Sometimes you need to give him some space to think about the idea of you & him. It'll take you a while to figure out how you'll try to get his attention in a positive way, so give him some time to find a reaction that he sees fit.

• If he is in the popular clique, don't try to join in the group! If you do, they'll probably talk about you behind your back. This could start rumors, and he may not defend you. You know how cliques are, right? They prefer keeping people inside who stand by their beliefs.

• Wish you the best of luck, and remember that whatever happens, no one can change who you really are!

• If you are under pressure, just relax, kick back and maybe rehearse a few lines, but feel free to make up something, as long as it sounds nice. but heres a Don't do the perfume on the arm and ask him to smell your arm!!!

How to Ask a Best Friend if They Like You

Fri, 18 Dec 2009 11:45:28 +0100

Possibly one of the riskiest things you will ever do, asking a best friend if they like you can either lead to an amazing relationship, if he/she feels the same way, awkwardness if the feeling isn't mutual, or possibly the end of a friendship if not handled well.

Steps

Make sure you are sure you want to hear the truth! If you are really into him/her it can hurt to hear that they don't feel the same way. Don't expect high results.
Since He/She is your best friend then just be honest to them and tell them you have a question you will only ask them if they promise you first they will answer truly, then simply ask them "How do you feel about me?" or "If I tell you that I like you what are you going to do?" a question similar to these!
Think long and hard about what you are going to say. I personally like the bog-standard "Look, I know this seems a bit random, but do you like me as more than a friend?" the problem with straight out asking is it can lead to awkwardness. Remember to act like it's no big deal. If your palms are sweaty and you are stuttering, he/she may take it too seriously and be nervous as well.
Consider calling or even instant messaging. Only do this if you feel you cannot summon the courage to ask in person (these methods are not recommended!). But remember, if you have strong feelings towards your friend, it is best to ask them straight out, face-to-face. It is less likely to be taken as a practical joke and your sincerity will come across.
Don't panic and don't get tearful on him/her if nothing goes according to plan! Don't let it change your friendship!
Ask them at the right time, not just a random time. Make them feel good about answering your question, because they might take it as a joke.
If he/she says no, don't worry about he/she gossiping about it and you being embarrassed. Just remember you're still best friends if you choose to be.
And don't forget that you can always see a reaction before asking them. Give subtle advances that you may have an interest and read their body language. Remember, nervousness is not neccessarily a "no." Remember not to be rude. Refrain from using teasing method.

Tips

If you really like the person, try and get closer to them before you attempt this. Because if you get close and know them better, chances are they may end up liking you anyway!
Don't panic, stay calm. Remember this is your best friend you're talking about.
If all else fails, you can still write it in a letter though there is always the worry they won't get round to reading it or it'll fall into the wrong hands!
Do not try to gauge your friend's feelings by making jokes about dating each other. This will make a joke out of the idea of dating , which is unwanted.
One good way of literally 'feeling out' their feelings is to see how they responds to subtle physical signs of affection. For example, if you're standing next to him/her, touch him/her on her lower back to get her attention and ask him/her a question. Or to be less direct, nudge him/her (when appropriate), or put a hand around his/her shoulders in a hug when the person is feeling down.
DO NOT poke. While it may work on some people, it irritates other greatly and is seen as immature.
Once you've given them a lot of attention, back off a while and see if their interest increases.
Instant messaging works well, too! Sometimes people feel more confident behind a screen more so than they would in real life. If you're shy and would have trouble just coming out and saying it, MSN, Aim, or any other service like such may help.
Make sure to let them know that your friendship comes first, and that if they aren't interested it's alright.

Warnings

If they have a partner make sure your friendship is REALLY strong you don't want to make things awkward between the three of you! Think long and hard before you attempt this as it is most likely that his/her answer will be no.
This shouldn't be attempted if it is clear they like someone else. Chances are you will end up making a fool of yourself!
Never get defensive! If you freak out and mistreat them in any way you will only be shooting yourself in the foot.
Never look down in the mouth around them, even if they have rejected you. Find other things to be happy about.
Do not put up with abuse. If they are nasty with you, call them on it. But again be very careful to not add any poison to your response. If they ignore your feelings or say something insensitive to you say, "Hey that was unnecessary!" in a way that shows you are upset but not deveastated. DO NOT insult them to get the point across. That will only foster enemity. Do not tell them their faults in a hurtful manner in response to disrespect.
Be prepared to encounter some awkwardness if feelings aren't reciprocated. If this happens, try and bounce back quickly, or use a witty response. "Ah, well now that THAT'S out...", or "Just please take some time to let it sink in", works well.
Remember if he or she doesn't feel the same, there are a lot more 'fish in the sea' who are willing to give you a chance.

How to Turn Your Best Friend into Your Boyfriend

Fri, 18 Dec 2009 11:31:08 +0100

f you are starting to have feelings for your best friend, this is the article for you!!!

Steps

Be truthful around him
Be around him often, find his inner personality.
Start acting slightly differently, such as looking at him often or blushing around him...he will pick up on the difference and may get a subconscious idea that you like him...but be careful not to make this change too sudden as it may freak him out or make him think there's something wrong with you...
See how he feels about you, or get a friend to find out.
Get to know his friends, they will judge you, and if their decision is positive, then he will know that he can like you.
Ask him how he feels, tell him how you feel.
(If in close friendship) Be bold and (try to) sit in the same seat *lol*
Remain the same around him as you did before you realize you like him.
Don't allow your feelings towards him hamper you all friendship. Remember friendship is the key; be happy with his response, whatever it may be, and ABOVE ALL make sure you REALLY, REALLY like him and this is not some fleeting thing where you're kinda pretty sure you like him. No, be REALLY sure you like him a lot.
Remember to be happy with his response, whatever it may be. That's why you were friends in the first place.

Tips

Act softly, and approach with caution.
Just be yourself because if he's your best friend he will notice the change and it may scare him off. So remain the same loving, funny and caring friend that you has always been.

Warnings

Don't tell him straight up that you like him. It'll scare him, but make sure when you tell him, its not just a silly little hint. He won't pick up on it.
If he tells you he likes you, too, then don't mess around with his feelings.
Don't let your friends change your feelings.
Make SURE that he doesn't have a girlfriend, that could be very embarrassing and/or awkward when you find out.

Things You'll Need

Self- esteem
Confidence
Love (the real kind, not just a fleeting feeling)
Courage
Friendship

How to Tell when a Girl Is Interested in You

Fri, 18 Dec 2009 11:05:14 +0100

If you are deeply in love with a girl or have 'liked' a girl for a long time and are too afraid to ask her how she feels, uncertain of how she feels about you, or want to make a few verifications before you make a big move.

Steps

   1. She will act differently around you depending on how confident she is. If she knows what she wants, she will be more aggressive by talking to you more, staring you in the eye, touching you, and trying to be around you more. If she is the shy type, she will become quieter when you're around, laugh at your jokes more often, stare at you when you're not looking, and overall just try to act cool around you while subtly flirting.
   2. See if the girl acts nice to you and your friends, and if she laughs at your jokes often.
   3. Watch if the girl stops conversations when you become in earshot. Also if she giggles a lot when you are around, she could like you.
   4. Understand that some girls tease the guys they like; if she always has a snappy comeback for you and nobody else, or very few others, then she could like you.
   5. If she starts to act differently or you catch her staring at you, she probably wants you.
   6. If she lets you touch her, or tries to partner with you, it is a sure sign she is interested.
   7. Consider if she seems to go out of her way to be around you.
   8. Try to note when she's talking to you, whether or not she is forgetful or notice.
   9. If you happen to remark that red is your favorite color or if you compliment her on a different hairstyle, it's a sure cue to her that you have noticed how she looks. If red suddenly seems to infiltrate the lady's wardrobe or if she keeps that hairstyle as her new look, it's a reciprocal cue to you that she wants to maintain whatever it is that has captivated you.
10. Some shyer girls might be too embarrassed to flirt with you. If this is the case, approach her yourself and try to build up her self-confidence with compliments. Don't get offended if she doesn't respond right away, she may be unsure of what to say.
11. If you catch the girl staring at you continuously, or glancing quickly up at you and looking away, she probably likes you but is too shy to speak her mind.
12. If she sees you staring at her and she turns around then she is probably shy and/or likes you.
13. If she starts spending a lot more time with you, or talking on the phone with you she's probably interested.
14. If she smiles at you when you see her and you don't really know her, this could be a sign she likes you. (Always smile back!)
15. If she blinks a lot around you she probably likes you. But don't get the wrong idea, she may just have something in her eye!
16. If you are having a conversation, look down at her feet. If her feet are pointed towards you she probably likes you.
17. Both men and women may have what is called "Subconscious Mirroring". This means that she (and he too) will mirror your movements subconsciously while talking to you or just around you. (e.g, if you are sitting next to her in a school lecture, you cross your legs, and she does the same. You move your papers so that they are more on your kneecap then by your torso, she will rearrange or reposition her papers in some way. You scratch your head, she twittles her hair.)
18. If you work then you may see her around your workplace on weekends, after school and on holidays.
19. If you hang out a lot. Even if its not alone. Maybe just with friends. But you both seem to generally stay together.
20. If she comes up to you for the 1st time and starts talking about how disgusting the water fountains are at the school (or other stuff like that) without saying hello or even 'so what is your name?' then one; she is an extremely bad flirter or maybe she is a mad person.
21. If she pushes or punches you in a friendly way,and you pretend it hurt and she giggles or smiles she likes you...however if she maintains a blank face...she actually meant for the punch to hurt....

Tips

    * Tell her that she looks nice. If she laughs and gets on you then basically it is a good chance she likes you.
    * Compliment her on something (hair, shirt, eyes, etc.) However, the type of compliment you give depends on the girl. While some girls like being called "hot," other prefer being called "beautiful" and may take offense to being called "hot," or vice versa. Just use your judgment when you compliment her.
    * Be yourself. If you try to put on a really 'cool' personality you'll just end up sounding fake.
    * She may be more shy to talk to you than other guys she considers just friends.
    * If she is shy, try getting in the lunch line right before her in school. When you get your lunch try picking at it while in line. If she is shy, she might start copying you and pick at her food too.
    * A girl will already have it in her mind if she is interested in you or not. You probably won't change her mind in one meeting unless you are outstanding in some way like being really good-looking, famous, rich or she had the wrong impression of you.
    * Even though giving her small gifts and tokens of your feelings is sometimes a good idea, it is important not to go overboard. Writing her a small lover note is sweet, but writing her a long love poem may be too intimidating. Such things as a single rose (not an entire bouquet), a small bracelet, or just nice notes are good ways to hint at how you feel.
    * If she is staring at you and you look at her, if she looks away she probably feels shy around you, so try not to pressure her.
    * Don't be afraid of what she will say, whenever you feel the moment, use it, because you will highly regret not taking advantage of it.
    * If you have plans for a movie or something of the such, ask her if she would like to go. If she giggles, or smiles when she accepts, she probably likes you. If she doesn't react much, she probably is taking advantage of your offer. If she declines, then she might be busy, or just might not like you.
    * Also if you and her never met before just approach her and introduce yourself: "Hi my name is [name]." Then, something else of your choice. Perhaps, "I've seen you around a few times..." or even "What's your name?" , if you feel bold enough.
    * Never ever try to act cool, just be yourself, if you don't know how to be yourself, just listen to your heart and you'll know when the moment is right to ask her out.
    * Stop being afraid of rejection, because those who are so afraid of rejection that they never ask run the risk of ending up alone.
    * First kisses should always be just a normal kiss, not a french or passionate one. Unless she asks you to do it and you are comfortable with it, stick with the normal kiss. Once you get more comfortable with kissing her, try a french or passionate. Remember, never rush things - it's not a marathon!
    * Be yourself! Don't act all cool or tough. You know deep inside you're faking, and you don't want the girl to find out, correct?
    * If you ask her on a casual date in about a week or so, she may start asking about it more than usual, sometimes repeating the same questions, usually this is just an excuse to start or keep a conversation going.
    * A girl will notice you staring at her if she is interested in you (MOST of the time) so if she looks your way a lot, especially when you're staring at her she may like you. if you catch her eye, hold it (It drives them insane), and if she turns red and looks away she almost certainly likes you. Or maybe that's just some girls. Try it you never know!

Warnings

    * Don't confess your undying love to her or send her poems and love notes unless you're dating seriously. This might freak her out and push her away from you. Try something along the lines of "You're really fun to be around, do you wanna hang out sometime? On Friday I'm going to..." and go from there.
    * Only compliment a girl if the compliment itself is true. For example, never say "Hey, I like your shirt" if you do not actually like the shirt. It's better to say nothing at all, or look for something else to compliment.
    * Don't compliment on something weird. Such as "You open your locker really fast" might make the girl think you're weird.
    * Don't ask your friends to find out if she likes you. She'll probably sense something weird and think you're playing games with her.
    * Don´t try to kiss someone without asking unless you are one hundred percent sure they're in the moment too. If you jump on a person that doesn't want to be kissed you could very well end up with a black eye. Plus, it will be incredibly awkward the next day if you are rejected.
    * If she turns you down, don't push it. She knows what she wants and it obviously isn't you.
    * Even if you know a girl is interested in you, don't think you have her wrapped around your finger. She may change her mind thinking you're too full of yourself.
    * If they say that they like you and then someone asks you if you like her then don't freak out and say no, tell her what you really think about her.
    * Don't be clutchy. While holding the girl's hand or putting your hands around her waist may seem like a nice thing to do, make sure that she feels the same way or you may offend her. It is very important not to rush things too fast, since you risk the girl's opinions of you. Do not forcefully take her hand or touch her. If she is showing signs of irritation, immediately stop touching her, or she may think that you are possessive and controlling.
    * Never, EVER confess that you like her in front of others. If she rejects you, you'll both be embarrassed.
    * Do not ask what she thinks of you! Judge a woman by her actions, not by her words.
    * If you ask her what she thinks of you, don't expect a straight out "I love you, I think you're awesome!" response. She probably won't put her heart on her sleeve, so watch her expression and body language for indications as to how she really feels.
    * Sometimes when girls say "I HATE YOU" or "I don't like you" that just means that you and that particular girl should just be friends.
    * It's a good idea not to tell your friends nor family who you love before you tell the girl you love her first.
    * Don't stalk the girl you fancy, it's creepy and a huge turnoff.
    * Don't automatically assume, that if a girl is staring at you and giggling that she likes you, you may have something in your teeth when you smile at her.
    * Don't be an idiot and take it too fast. Take it nice and slow.

How to Overcome Shyness with Girls

Fri, 18 Dec 2009 11:06:41 +0100

Steps

   1. Practice with a friend. One of the big factors in shyness is the fear of rejection. Eliminate this factor by approaching and picking up a woman for your friend or your brother (but make sure your friend knows!). Since your own ego isn't at stake, you'll be less inhibited in your approach. You'll see it's no big deal and will want to pick up for yourself next time.
   2. Focus on baby steps. Treat dating like a 12-step program. Start with a smile; show everyone (not just the cute girls) you're friendly and approachable. On following days, move up to saying "hi." A few days after that, engage in small talk. Keep going as you gradually open yourself up to people and see it's not as hard as you thought. If you make a blunder, forget about it. Most people are more forgiving than you think. If beautiful women intimidate you, take baby steps up the beauty scale. Start by approaching more average-looking women you feel confident with. As you become at ease with them, move on to prettier women, and so on.
   3. Start by asking this special girl simple questions. You can show that you care by asking her how her day was.
   4. Don't take things personally. If you want to succeed in the game of romance, you can't take every comment, insinuation or joke that a woman might throw your way as a personal affront. People sometimes say things they don't mean. You'll have nothing to be self-conscious about if nothing bothers you.
   5. Learn to listen. Don't do all the talking. Let women talk about themselves for a while. Ask open-ended questions and just sit back and listen. If the conversation lulls, have new conversation topics ready. And to ease the burden of initiating something, have a few icebreakers handy to get the ball rolling.
   6. Talk to a lot of people. Don't be afraid to chat up everyone you meet, from the old lady doing her groceries to the bank teller. Practice makes perfect.
   7. Don't fear rejection. Great boxers go in the ring knowing there's a chance they'll lose. Similarly, you can't expect to succeed every time. Nothing is 100%, so view every encounter with a woman as a positive learning experience. The trick here is to not be self-conscious. Shyness and hesitation occur when you think about your flaws. Instead, focus your thoughts entirely on the woman you're talking to. You'll forget about your jitters and she'll be flattered by the attention.
   8. Get out and socialize. Join activities in which you're always interacting with people, such as the gym, exercise classes, a college society, or a hobby club. In these environments, you must always socialize, and after a while, you'll get comfortable with it. Furthermore, you're practically guaranteed to meet interesting women.
   9. It starts with you. When you leave your shyness behind, which will take time and persistence, you'll see how much your life will change, as you'll begin to go after what you want with fewer fears. And here's a secret: should you enter a room and feel those familiar jitters, remember that most people you meet are too busy worrying about what others think about them to really notice and judge you.

Tips

    * Imagine that you are talking to a friend. That will loosen the tension and allow more comfortable conversation.
    * Make eye contact. This lets her know you are legitimately interested. But don't stare!
    * Be yourself.
    * Be respectful to women. They are not objects - always keep that in mind.
    * Compliment the little things; the things that most men wouldn't notice. When you do that, you let her know that the little things she does don't go unnoticed, and makes her feel special.
    * Never over-do anything. In fact, UNDER-do some things. If you drop that one little compliment, and leave it at that, she will want to talk to you more to see what else you have to say.

Warnings

    * NEVER over-compliment. Drop one here or there, but if you over-compliment, that will introduce a feeling of awkwardness and disparity. Women like their men to be strong, not desperate.

How to Act Around Girls

Fri, 18 Dec 2009 11:12:30 +0100

Although interacting with girls seems like an intimidating endeavor to many guys, adhering to certain principles allows it to be a more comfortable and enjoyable experience for everyone involved.

Steps

   1. Be yourself. It's important to maintain self confidence by being yourself around girls. If you adopt an alternate personality to attract girls, you will eventually be weighed down with the feeling that your true self isn't good enough. It may help to develop and improve your social skills, but any girls that don't appreciate you for who you are don't deserve your attention.
   2. Relax. When you are tense or nervous, you will be more prone to feeling embarrassed if you make some minor mistakes. Staying calm allows you to fully enjoy a girl's company. Be careful not to place all your hopes on a single girl; it will only make it more painful if things don't work out as you would like. Don't let any prior sour experiences prevent you from seeking opportunities that are available to you.
   3. Respect all girls equally. You stand a much better chance of making a good overall impression if you treat girls that don't interest you just as nicely as those that do. This doesn't mean that you need to talk to or flirt with every girl, but don't ignore them or treat them dismissively. Don't talk to a girl about other girls' attractiveness; it's distasteful and can degrade the girl's opinion of herself. You generally shouldn't talk about past relationships you've had, or other girls that interest you; it detracts from building a new relationship.
   4. Exhibit good manners. Girls love guys that are polite and courteous. Refrain from doing or saying things that many people consider offensive, including swearing and making sexist/racist/etc. jokes or comments. Saying things that you know would probably offend some people isn't a good way to make or keep friends. If you act like a gentleman, demonstrating your respect for females and other people in general, girls will be more likely to welcome your company.
   5. Be attentive. When you talk to a girl, give her your full attention. Make eye contact, and don't give in to distractions. Listen carefully to what she says, and you may learn a lot about her and discover interests that you have in common.
   6. Be sensitive to her feelings. If she seems upset about something, don't try to downplay her emotions or dismiss her concerns as being trivial. Sincerely offering sympathy to someone in distress will build trust between you, and it is an effective way to form friendship or gain a girl's interest.
   7. Make her laugh. Engaging in lighthearted banter will make it easier to talk about more serious things, allowing you and a girl to learn about each other without feeling as awkward about it. A good sense of humor is one of the most attractive qualities a guy can have, and it will help override any possible negative preconceptions a girl may have about you. Remember, however, that being funny isn't appropriate in every situation, and your style of humor won't necessarily impress every girl.
   8. Recognize that physical contact should be limited by the state of your relationship.

          * Acquaintances — A handshake when introducing yourself is probably a reasonable limit for a first meeting. You can also subtly brush your hand against her hand or arm.
          * Casual Friends or Prospective Dates — You could try something like touching her hair or playfully poking her in the side and asking if she is ticklish. This is generally considered flirting, and if a girl doesn't appreciate your advances, it's best to apologize and refrain from making similar contact.
          * Good Friends — It is generally acceptable to give friendly hugs to girls that you know fairly well, even if you aren't a couple. Just be sensitive to the girl's feelings about it; pressuring her to hug you will make her uncomfortable.
          * Boyfriend/Girlfriend — When you've grown closer, you can hold her hand or wrap your arm around her shoulders or waist when you're walking together. With her consent, you can also kiss her.
          * Note: Obtaining a girl's consent before hugging or kissing (or other contact) does not necessarily require a verbal confirmation. Pay attention to her body language to ensure that she isn't looking apprehensive or trying to pull away, and don't try to surprise her unless you already know she won't mind.
   9. Make her feel special. After making a good first impression, if you hope to pursue a more earnest relationship with a particular girl, you should elevate your efforts to treat her well and express your romantic interest. Offer sincere compliments, flirt, and watch for an opportune moment to ask her out.

Tips

    * Don't panic if you do something embarrassing. A lot of girls find that really cute, especially if you are able to recover with good humor.
    * If you have a good relationship with a sister close to your age, that can be a model for how to move and speak around girls.
    * It's okay to tease her a little, but generally not about her appearance. If you're not sure she'll take your teasing the right way, try something else instead. Just watch your timing and try not to be too goofy, or you may make a fool of yourself.
    * Watch her body language; if she's shifting her weight a lot and not making eye contact, she's probably uncomfortable. It may be the conversation topic, how close you are standing or sitting next to her, or something else. Respect her feelings, and change the subject or step back, if necessary, depending on what is bothering her.
    * If no commitment has been established between you and a girl, don't get jealous of her flirting with other guys. She can't be considered disloyal if you haven't even started dating her yet. Also note that such flirting does not by itself indicate that you can't form an exclusive relationship with her at some point, but acting jealous can make it more difficult to cultivate that relationship.
    * Girls like it when you're forward but not in a creepy way. Smile at her in a way that's clear, friendly, and/or playful. If you feel compelled to honesty, you can offer a sincere compliment. For example, you could say she has beautiful eyes or a beautiful smile. But, only say things like that if you want it to be obvious that you intend on moving beyond flirting. Select something good that is reserved for her only; it will make her feel wonderfully special, admired, and beautiful.
    * Be the same around her and your friends. Get to know her friends and be friends with them. This will show her that you're nice and friendly.
    * Don't try too hard. She'll notice.
    * Be especially careful in breaking the touch barrier with shy girls. Shy girls are going to have very good guy friends they may even like, but suddenly going up to them and hugging them/demanding a hug may seem threatening to her. If you know she's shy, take it slow. Very slow.
    * Make the first move if you can, girls feel weird when they have to ask a guy out.
    * Don't say perverted things or jokes. Most girls don't like that

Warnings

    * Don't focus too much on one girl if she isn't enjoying the extra attention. She may get annoyed, and it will likely hurt your relationship.
    * Many girls like it when you can't take your eyes off them, but not when you're staring at their boobs. Although there are some girls that may enjoy such attention, you won't offend anyone by focusing on her face instead. Do not ogle her. Just remember to use discretion and show proper respect.
    * There is nothing wrong with trying to make her feel special long into a relationship, but trying to kiss up to her, especially within the first few weeks of knowing her, will do more harm than good, and you will be labeled more as a friend who tries to buy her attention than a potential mate.
    * Having good manners is important. Don't pick your nose, scratch your butt, pick at your body in any way, fart, or burp, cough, or sneeze with your mouth wide open, etc. Gross her out, and you'll be lucky if she ever looks at you again.
          o There are some girls out there that think burps and farts are hilarious, and would love you for them. Remember, don't generalize; learn about her personality.
    * Never tell any of your friends what happens unless it is a really close friend.
    * Be especially careful of what you say about her appearance. Don't ever tell her that she looks bad. Restrict use of words like "hot" or "sexy". Even if said in a joking fashion, things like this can make a girl feel very self-conscious, whether you are referring to her or to someone else.
    * If you feel "sexually aroused," hide it but not in too obvious of a manner. If it's too obvious you get aroused around them they will get creeped out.
    * Don't make mean comments on her friends or singers she likes, it might annoy her.

How to Know if a Girl Likes You(For Guys)

Fri, 18 Dec 2009 11:13:17 +0100

Not sure what those glances, smiles and looks mean? Follow these steps to find out if she really likes you.
Steps

   1. Strike up a small conversation. This will help you learn little things that will come in handy in the future. All girls are different, so be aware of the signs. Listen to the tone of her voice: if she's shy, the tone of her voice might be a little higher and she might start to play with her hair (smoothing it down, twirling, flipping) or adjusting her clothes. Another sign she likes you is if she laughs at a normally boring or stupid joke. (Though, don't use bad jokes as a test, or you'll risk looking like a comedy loser.) She may not be able to look you straight in the eye and she might giggle a lot.
   2. Watch for signs of flirting. If she's flirting, she may be difficult to read. Flirtatious girls may flirt with guys who they consider to be just friends, and it can be misconstrued as a crush. Because most girls do not want to be obvious, the flirtatious ones might flirt with you a little bit less or they might flirt with you even more. Either way, don't "flirt around". Do not flirt with other girls. If she ever sees you putting your arm around another girl or sees another girl hug you, she may jump to conclusions and assume she doesn't mean anything to you.
   3. Notice if she touches you more often than what friends do (she's constantly trying to touch your hand or something). If she finds excuses to do so, then you're probably on the right track. But conversely, don't assume that just because she isn't touching you that she doesn't like you. She may be too nervous of you to touch you yet. Break the touch barrier yourself.
   4. Observe how she looks at you. If she likes you, she will either hold it for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it means she is nervous but she still likes you - which means that you should probably make the first move. If she holds the stare, then she is confident and she may make the first move. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she likes you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction. Look for her eyes to light up when she sees you or hears your name.
   5. Look at her friends. If you see most of her friends glancing back at you and smiling or giggling, this means that she is telling her friends about you. If her friends are loud and immature, you'll hear "(your name), (her name) likes you!" Her friends might be making it up, however, just to tease her. When she is having a conversation with her friends, and you come over, she might stop talking all of a sudden. This likely means you were the subject of the recently ended conversation. If she likes you and she told her friends about you, they might come up to you and start a random conversation about things such as: Who would you rather date, Who do you like better, Who is the hottest, etc. If they name a list of about 3 people and her name is in the list, she probably told her friends about you and they're trying to search for clues to see how you feel about her.
   6. Look out for the damsel in distress. If you're outside and the girl you like is nearby and starts loudly saying "I'm cold!", that's a subtle hint that she wants you to give her your sweater. This is a very sweet gesture, especially if you want to show the girl that you like her. If there are other guys and she likes one of those guys, however, she might act disappointed when you offer yours to her first, in which case at least you'll know how she feels and can move on. Sometimes a girl will pretend to be really bad at something, and say that they can't do it. That is your cue to offer some assistance, and she will most likely be doing this on purpose just to see your reaction.
   7. Smile at her. Do a natural smile - don't freak her out. If she smiles politely, or frowns and looks away, say goodbye to her. She is obviously freaked out by you. If she returns a soft or big smile and continues to look at you, then she is interested. If she smiles then darts over to the crowd of her friends and hides in the group then she may be nervous and curious if you know that she likes you.

Tips

    * Look for other clues. She'll leave clues everywhere if you know where to look. Do you notice any of these:
          o Her hair: If she tugs on her hair or plays with it, when she is around you or when she sees you come into a room, it means she's nervous. She's nervous about seeing you.
          o Stares: Depending on how much she likes you and how good of an actress she is, she can give you long looks when you're not looking or glance at you.
          o Passing interactions: If you see her walking down the hallway, she'll look at you once, quickly. She'll probably smile as well.
          o Questioning: If she constantly asks about your status with girls and asks your preference in types of girls, then she is likely fishing to see if she might meet your interests.
          o Hitting: If she tries to hit you (i.e., a "slap" on the arm, a "punch"), then she probably likes you. If you feign injury and the girl seems amused, she likes you. If you feign injury and the girl seems slightly worried, she thinks of you only as a friend.
    * If you find out that a girl likes you, don't act like she is from another planet or has the flu. Girls don't like it and their hearts can be very fragile, so be careful. Don't be mean or give her the cold shoulder because if you do end up liking her eventually, she may not give you another chance. Also, that kind of mistake can mess up your reputation as being a good boyfriend.
    * Tell her friends. They can be really good and most likely will not tell her unless they know she likes you. If they do tell her, that could be good. Just go up and say I think I like (their friends name) and see their reactions.
    * Do not try to flirt with the girl's friends. This may cause the girl's friend to believe that you like her and cause bad relations between the two.
    * Telling a guy that he's like her brother may be a girl's polite way of saying that she's not interested to someone she is friends with. However, for some girls, this may indicate shyness. Do not automatically assume that she doesn't like you if she says you are like her brother.
    * If she hugs you, hug her back. If you're shy and you feel uncomfortable and try to push her away, she'll get all confused and well, you don't want that.
    * Girls like to know who has a crush on them. Even if you aren't sure, tell her. If you're nice about it and don't harass her, she won't mind at all.
    * If a girl smiles and calls you her boyfriend, she might like you. Be careful, though, she really could mean that you are just friends.
    * Also a girl likes you, they will probably laugh at all your jokes even if they're not funny or if they're not jokes.
    * A lot of shy girls usually won't admit that they like you unless they know that you like them too, so if she denies it to someone not close to her, don't lose hope!
    * Girls are like guys - they won't (or will be less likely to) approach you if you are in a group/surrounded by friends, so seperate yourself from them and then she'll feel much more comfortable talking to you.
    * It is not a good idea to tell your friends you like her before you tell her

Warnings

    * Girls might try the "jealous approach" and start flirting with your friends to make you notice them more. Be wary of these girls. If you really like her, pay more attention to her and try to get her alone - she might get the hint that you like her and stop trying so hard. And as much as you may want to, don't ever do the same thing back. Girls are more sensitive and will probably just give up on you if you do that.
    * Don't directly ask her if she likes you. This tends to backfire if said improperly because the girl will get all tense and uncomfortable. So it's better not to ask.
    * Be careful! The girl might not like you and think you like her, which could lead to hurt feelings. She might try to hook you up with someone else by just simply saying to you, "Doesn't (another girl's name) look pretty today?" (or something like that to try and get you to leave her alone). If you get this hint, try to act indifferent while observing and changing your opinions to match theirs, then try again after a while.